I inspire and am inspired by my family
A mother’s story by Eduardo Quaresma
When I moved from Portugal to the UK and left my mother and two sisters behind, I knew it wouldn’t be easy. I came to start a new life here with my partner and the first period had challenging moments, including the weather, food and language. My partner was living in Newcastle and I stayed at my niece’s house for almost one year with no income. I became pregnant again so I was offered a hostel to stay at until a permanent place became available, trying to survive on twenty pounds a week.
My 3 year old daughter was crying every day, saying that she wanted to go back to her grandmother and aunties, and for a mother this was torture. After seven months in the hostel we were offered a place to live. From there our life started to improve, with my partner moving from Newcastle to be with us. I started work at a hotel as a cleaner and within a year became Head Housekeeper.
My big inspiration is my mother, for what she has been through in this life. Since her teenage years she had so many events but never gave up, she has a huge faith, is so powerful and such a positive person. Even when in hospital with the doctors saying that they didn’t know if she would live, after losing a baby, one of seven babies she lost. My late father was a role model, ambassador, and such a great leader. My four daughters are my daily inspiration and I know they are my gas to carrying on my journey. I always teach my daughters to do what they love with passion.
It is not easy for mothers that work, especially when you have four children aged from two to seventeen, which is me. When you really want something you go for it. I go to university, cook, and do things for my children but I have own my moments – I love dancing. I need to be out of my comfort zone, with my mind intent on achieving my goals. My energy comes from what I believe and the support I have from my husband.
My energy comes from what I believe and the support I have from my husband.
Sometimes when I was at the hotel cleaning and a guest was rude to me, I never got upset. I knew that my future was going to be amazing, and that this moment was just a chapter of my life. Since I was a young girl I knew that I was born for a reason, that my name will be called to a higher place. I have never been scared of hard work in anything, because when you trust your instinct you just know your time will come. I believe it and I make it happen.
I truly believe that your current situation doesn’t define you, when you have a dream inside you and you just follow your heart, your actions will get you to where you want to be. I started attending events and signed up for trainings and through this created fantastic connections. I have never been scared to connect with people and I just approach them and present myself. I told everyone about my dreams of becoming a speaker, and was given so much advice and encouragement to continue.
By keeping a positive mind you will see things in a very different way. Deleting negative thinking is the key to accomplishing anything.
When you go to so many events in your life, you feel special. God sends you with a purpose, so you know that it is all for a reason. I speak from my heart to others mothers and love to motivate and push them to the limits of what they can achieve and desire in life. I make them believe that no matter what’s going on in their life they should never give up on their dreams. By keeping a positive mind you will see things in a very different way. Deleting negative thinking is the key to accomplishing anything.
My dream is to travel all over the world, to make my voice heard at as many events as possible and contribute to change in this world. If a mother who was a cleaner can do it, then anyone can do it. I want to be a role model for my four princesses and I want them to have the same belief and desire as their mother. I will be their best friend and be there for them always.